To those who simply do not understand my son. You see he’s a bright intelligent happy little soul. He’s got an infectious personality and the biggest heart of anyone you will ever meet. He worships the ground his daddy walks on and adores his baby sister! But deep down he struggles for you see he can not communicate, he cannot express his feelings like most of us can, he cannot speak and tell me he hurts, that he’s sad or he’s upset. Recently those feelings came out in full force on a full to capacity bus full of people. Some of those people were incredible people and helped me, some of those people kept quiet and their opinions to themselves whilst a small group of individuals (that’s just me being polite but this isn’t about me being angry) felt the need to express their disgust, make cruel comments and be little me in front of my children. I’m not going to say I’m sorry but I have nothing that I need to be sorry for but I want to say sometimes thinking before you speak is a very valuable point in what I’m trying to say. Even when I tried to explain how anxious my son gets and he hates situations that are out of his comfort zone but to sit there and tell me that’s he’s too extreme and that I’m a bad parent because I’m letting him “tantrum” broke me beyond belief. We as his parents have given up everything to make sure that him and his sister have the best of everything in this world. My children are fed, warm, entertained, happy and loved which I think makes me far from a bad parent. I’m not saying Oliver is never naughty because we have days where we can be genuinely naughty but he also has moments where others thinking he's being naughty is his only way of communicating. There won’t always be a time where I can protect him from the words of others, moments like these make me want to wrap him up and keep him away from the world but that is no good for him. He needs to be in the world learning how it works if he has any chance when I am no longer her to guide him through life but how can I when people feel the need to make rude disgusting comments.
I think trying to not let the comments get to me is easier said than done but I will always teach him to walk with his head held high and no matter how much words sometimes hurt they do not define him.
